10 July 2014

And Just Like That, They Make A Liar Out of You.

Yesterday’s post was pretty deep. If you missed it, you can catch up here. The long and the short of it is that in my momma world these days, nothing seems to be going right between me and my little girl and because of that, most days I feel like the mean mommy.

And then something happened.
I’m not quite sure how to explain it but all afternoon I felt a twinge of hope. I just knew something good was going to happen with Chickie. I kept saying to myself, “This is the day. Today is the day that something great will happen.”

And it did. 

We’ve been potty training for about two months now with semi-successful results, especially where day care is concerned. On average, Chickie has around 1 – 2 accidents a day at school and lucky us, they are usually always poop related. It has been a work struggle in process leaving all of us – parents and teachers included – feeling frustrated and helpless to make it work. Truly, our little Chickie is like a pig who loves to sit in their own shit. 

“Maddy, why did you poop in your pants?”
“Maddy, how did this poop get here in your pants instead of in the toilet?”

Maddy’s response?

Home girl hasn’t been having any of it. Until yesterday.
Maybe it just clicked and made sense for once. Maybe it was karma from the post I wrote yesterday. Maybe it was my bribing and bargaining that “Mommy will buy you as many donuts as you want if you can go all day without any accidents.” Whatever it was, it turned out to be wonderful. 

And just like that, my little girl made a liar out of me.

I came around the corner to find her playing in the same clothes I had dropped her off in that morning and all I could think to do was cry. My eyes welled up, and all I could think was, “Thank you, God. Thank you. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.” She did it. She made it all day at school without any accidents. 

(Enter cheesy celebratory selfie above and a trip to Dunkin Donuts!)

But my little Chickie didn’t stop there with the surprises. Remember me talking about her horrible sleep too yesterday? Well, I’m happy to report that last night, she only woke up once around 11:30 but went back to sleep easily and didn’t wake up until 6:45 this morning which meant that mommy and daddy finally got some sleep - Oh glorious sleep!

It’s always amazing to me how my child has an uncanny way of making me feel like the biggest ass in the world but hey, I’ll take it. I’ll take all of that because today was a good day but tomorrow might not be so let's celebrate all the small accomplishments and enjoy the now. It’s a step in the right direction. It’s a light at the end of what has been a very dark tunnel but more importantly, she’s my girl and I’m so very, very proud of her.

Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup

Courtney is a published author, mom, taco enthusiast, and a Star Wars and Tennessee Volunteers fanatic. She's never met a piece of sushi she didn’t like and enjoys an amazing glass of wine and a great cut of meat. You can read more of her wine-induced, sleep-deprived adventures on The Huffington Post and Scary Mommy.


  1. Ok, Chickie needs to pass some of her tips and tricks on to Marcus.
    Way to go little lady!!!

    1. Thank you! We were shocked for sure but I'll take it!

  2. I had the same dark tunnel with Meagan. As a matter of fact the day care was really riding me because they needed to move her to the next class to make space for other kids graduating up and they could not do it because she wasn't potty trained. One evening after a completely frustrating and humiliating conversation with the day care director I sat down and had a mommy heart to heart with my little darling only to discover that she didn't want to use the big potty because she was scared she would fall through the hole. I immediately took her into the bathroom and showed her that this would not happen because she was bigger than the whole. After showing her that she went straight to the drawer were her big girl panties were, took out a pair, put them on and has never looked back since. (At least I think she's still in big girl panties!) This was the secret fear of my child who also was the one who got in trouble for putting glue in her hair. After talking for a couple of hours on the proper uses of glue to no avail, she suddenly divulges her fear that her hair would fall off like her daddy's did! So you just never know what they are thinking and how it can motivate or hinder their progress. Things just click with most kids and they are off on a new tangent without a second thought and leave you standing there with your jaw on the floor.
    Don't beat yourself up about it. Her behavior on this has been very normal and while we all rejoice in the fact that she is a very unique child on the whole accept normal on this and continue to enjoy the success. Take rest from the fact that you've made it over this hurdle...lots of rest. Unfortunately there is probably another hurdle on the process or rising up in front of you. I'm sure you and Michael will rise to it's challenges like you have everything else so far. You are GREAT parents and are doing a better than average job!

  3. yay sleep!!! way to go maddy!! yay for some good news for a change!

    1. Isn't that the truth! Lately, I've felt like the negative nancy and I hate that feeling.

  4. Sleep is a game changer. I remember the first night Aria slept through for a significant chunk I was like LETS HAVE MORE BABIES!!!! I was a whole new woman, a nutty woman though apparently. I realllllly don't know how you have survived so long with minimal sleep. I'd be the worst mom ever. fingers crossed for more sleep! super crossed. and also for more potty in the toileting. that has to be frustrating.

    1. Courtney, you absolutely crack me up. I love your wit! But it is true - constant, uninterrupted sleep will make you feel like you're king of the world!