16 March 2015

How to Rock Being a Working Mom



Being a working mom, albeit an amazing journey certainly comes with its own set of challenges and road blocks. I think the biggest one for me has been the never-ending battle of finding the balance of time and attention to both parts of my life without feeling like I’m neglecting one or the other. I’ve often had severe anxiety over the thought that I’m not doing enough for my child or spending enough time with her during the week. I think every working mom struggles with this, especially if you’re in a working environment that isn’t very supportive of the work/life balance. 

Over time, I’ve learned to let my anxieties fall to the wayside and rock being a working mom with this one simple realization: it isn’t about how many hours are spent at home; it’s about the quality in those hours. The acceptance of quality over quantity is a very freeing feeling for any working mom but it isn’t enough. To fully realize your ability to be both working and a mom, I share some tips and advice that have helped me along the way to completely ROCK being a working mom.



1.   Disconnect from the world to connect with those you love. For our family, this means that the TV is off and phones are put away during dinner time. We eat together as a family and talk about the ups and downs of our day, even our 3.5 year old contributes. She talks about what she did at school, activities and things she and her friends are learning at school for the week. It’s the perfect way to get quality time with loved ones.

2.   Be completely, 100% unapologetic about your working mom lifestyle. Only you have to live your life and live with your choices. Do not allow others, or society, make you feel as if you are a bad mom or an uninvolved mom for your choice to work. We know this couldn’t be further from the truth but unfortunately, there are many who will try to make you feel this way. Ignore the haters and keep it moving.

3.   Build your own working mom support network. Befriend other working moms in your child’s class and offer to help them anyway you can, when you can. Having these friendships makes it easier for you to ask for help when you need it, too.

4.   Your child’s school calendar is king. As soon as you receive it, add all vacation days, early release days and holidays to your own calendar so you know well in advance if other child care arrangements need to be made or if you need to submit time off requests from work to be at parent teacher conferences or other important events.


5.   Sunday is your reset day. I talk a lot about the Sunday Set | Reset. This is your day to organize for the upcoming week: meal plans, laundry, synchronize schedules with your spouse and get your kids prepped for the week as well. I can’t stress how much of a difference this plan of attack makes for me in my working mom world…and how much of a disaster I feel my week can quickly become when I don’t do it.

6.   Don’t forget your spouse. So many times, we focus our thoughts and attentions solely on the kids thinking our spouses can take care of themselves but they need our love and attention, too. Don’t forget to find little ways to connect with your husband or wife. Sometimes the smallest things mean the most.

7.   Make time for you. Yes, it’s important to think of the kids and your spouse but it’s also just as important to schedule a little “me time” onto your calendar. This is the source of your energy and inspiration. Don’t let your tank go empty!

8.   Delegate. Being truly connected with your spouse or partner means knowing when to let go and let them. If you’re anything like me, this can be hard to do {hello, control freak!} but it is necessary in keeping your balance.

9.   Find a routine that works for you and your family and stick to it. Bottom line, predictability makes your more successful and productive at home and in the office.

10. Be intentional and greedy about your time and commitments. Aside from Chickie and Michael, time is my next most precious thing. Feel confident and okay in saying “no” to events, people or activities that don’t really mesh with your family or that take you away from your family without a good reason. Know what your limitations are and respect those boundaries. Last but certainly not least, if you feel that you’re missing out on your kid’s activities during the week, volunteer to be involved with their extra-curricular activities on the weekends or by planning little excursions or activities.

These are my top 10 bits of advice on rocking being a working mom. What tips or advice do you have to share?
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup

Courtney is a published author, mom, taco enthusiast, and a Star Wars and Tennessee Volunteers fanatic. She's never met a piece of sushi she didn’t like and enjoys an amazing glass of wine and a great cut of meat. You can read more of her wine-induced, sleep-deprived adventures on The Huffington Post and Scary Mommy.

13 comments:

  1. This post totally even applies to me. The secrets to being awesome all the way around. I love it!

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  2. Laura Powell-CorbettMarch 16, 2015 at 10:24 AM

    Great tips and some apply to just mums in general especially the quality over quantity.... says she giving into the lion king again.... x

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  3. This is absolutely wonderful. There are some that I am strong at and some that I need to spend more time focusing on! Thanks for always uplifting and motivating us working mamas.

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  4. I always like these post because I can take some of them and apply them to being a stay-at-home mama and all the stuff I need to get done around here as well. Good tips!

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  5. Even though I don't have kids I can fully relate to all of this. I do a lot of this just for myself, everyone needs some "me" time.

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  6. Such an awesome list! i agree with every single one!!

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  7. Wonderful post that applies to both working and stay-at-home mamas!! You always know how to hit the nail on the head with your posts. Always remembering your spouse is something that we've really been focusing on since having Stella. We got back into a really good "dating" routine after Wyatt and we've been pushed back a little with Stella. But it's so important to a marriage and having a happy home!

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  8. Brittany DickersonMarch 16, 2015 at 7:52 PM

    This is something I am really struggling with. Finding time to be a mom to 3 toddlers, a working mom, wife, and homemaker. I still haven't found a good schedule.

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  9. I work from home so I really have to be intentional to communicate with my children when I need time to focus on work. We always make a plan of what we want to do together, and I often force myself to take breaks from whatever project I am working on to spend time with them.

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  10. I'm with Sarah here! I have always worked from home so the whole work live balance thing has its own additional set of challenges and rewards. I have recently found that posting my work schedule up in a very visible place on my desk so my kids and husband can see it easily helps. So when they walk in on me in the middle of a project i can point to the work schedule and just turn and leave silently! We'll see how it goes in the future! Thanks for sharing this!

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  11. This is a real good reminder to balance it all. Having quality time is the most important, with the family and with oneself. Thanks for sharing!

    -FarZain
    @http://colorsofourrainbow.blogspot.ae/

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  12. you got it! thanks for linking at the best of the blogosphere!

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  13. Great article and yes, we all moms really rock! It isn't easy to juggle everything. Thanks for linking up to the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party. I have pinned your post to the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Board.

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