To my fellow store patron,
I realize that in a country where the average family consists of 3.13 people I'm a bit of an anomaly. Three young children, and at the stage where I'm obviously pregnant with another one... I get it. I do.
However, just so you know, your seemingly lighthearted comment of, "You're brave" in the parking lot as I'm trying to wrangle all three of my children into a single shopping cart just comes off as condescending. I'm not brave for running errands with my children, I'm just out of milk.
I saw you continue to glance at me throughout our shopping trip. You observed me counting down from three, numerous times. You heard me incentivize my children with the promise of treats afterwards. You saw my 16 month old attempting to yank all breakables from the shelf, and my three year old (unknowingly) trying to shoplift a bag of candy. You witnessed me temporarily "lose" my five year old, and heard me raise my voice more and more as time wore on.
You've probably raised some children of your own. You probably feel like I'm doing several things wrong and you could certainly teach me a thing or two. You likely feel that the way that you would handle things would be much better. Just so you know, you're probably right.
For your kids.
For the child or children that you were given, you are the perfect parent. For your kids you had all the answers, and if you didn't, you eventually discovered them through trial and error. Or you didn't, and things turned out just fine.
Or maybe you're just wondering why I keep having kids. I've seen the thought flash in people's eyes before, "Doesn't she know how that happens?! She can't even handle the ones she has now." But what you don't know is that my kids have already been out running errands with me for hours. Or that my daughter has an earache, again. Or that my son (and I) are both "hangry". Or that my youngest is way past due for her nap.
What you don't know is that I too am the best parent for my children, what you don't know is how loved they are. What you don't see is the laughter, the stories, the songs, the hugs, the snuggles.
Just so you know, what you are witness to right now, is a very small snippet of our day.
Just so you know I am thankful and I feel so blessed.
And just so you know, you should mind your own business; don't you have more important things to worry about? I know I do.
One tired, busy, blessed momma