24 June 2016

To The Cowards Behind GOMI...

To The Cowards Behind GOMI. #GOMI #Blogs #Bloggers #BloggingAdvice


Last week, the husband of one of my favorite blogs, The Freckled Fox, passed away. His name was Martin. He leaves behind his wife Emily and their five small children. I’ve never met or talked with Emily. I only know of her through her blog but that’s the blogging community – when you find blogs you enjoy reading or are actually lucky enough to have friendships sprout from blogging, you begin to develop relationships and a sense of “family” with these people, even if you’ve never met them. It’s a very unique type of association. When you read a blog that you really enjoy and connect with, you find yourself thinking, “If I were to meet this person in real life, we would SO get along.” For me, it’s one of the fulfilling benefits of blogging.

Upon reading Emily’s announcement that Martin had passed, I immediately felt an immense amount of sadness for her and her children. As I thought about how this life-changing event will affect her and their family for years to come, I immediately grew angry; angry at cancer. Angry that good people continue to suffer and leave us but mostly…

I was angry at the cowards behind GOMI.

If you’re unfamiliar with GOMI, allow me give you a very brief overview. GOMI stands for Get Off My Internets and is a site dedicated to excessive snark, belittlement and judgment. They peruse blogs to make fun of, trash and spread their hate talk. That’s my, “If I’m being nice” descriptor.

But today, I don’t feel like being nice. Today where GOMI is concerned, I want to offer my balls to wall honest description…

The commenters and writers behind GOMI are a sad, pathetic, couldn’t do anything with their own lives so they make it a point to bash other people’s lives and cut them to shreds on the Internet, group of people. They are truly the epitome of the word “Haters” and absolutely relish the opportunity to be hateful, sorry sacks of shit.

Clear enough for you? In simplest terms, let’s just call these people the Westboro Baptist Church of the Internet.

These are the same people who trashed and judged Jackie Saldana of Baby Boy Bakery when she lost her three year old son Ryan in a horrific accident. These are the same people who attacked Christina of North Carolina Charm when she had a double mastectomy in an effort to be proactive about taking care of herself since there is a high risk of cancer in her family…

And these are the same people who attacked Emily of The Freckled Fox when she announced that Martin was sick.

This is why my thoughts went to anger when I found out Martin had passed. 

When Emily announced on her blog that Martin was sick, GOMI immediately launched into full-blown attack and analyze mode. Because Emily didn’t share every private detail about Martin’s condition and how it was being treated on her blog (how dare she!), the commenters and writers of GOMI immediately called her a liar and insisted that Emily was making up Martin’s condition in order to boost blog recognition. They literally demanded that Emily provide proof of Martin’s condition by publishing his medical records online and that if she wanted them to stop trashing her, she needed to “come clean.”

Well, I’d say his death last week is proof enough, wouldn’t you?

To be fair, Emily at one point did sit down with one of the writers of GOMI to give an interview and in return, the writer admitted publically on the site that they were wrong, that Martin was sick and they had goofed up. I don’t know how Emily really felt about that in the end, but in my mind for me, it was already too little too late. Those people had made it their life’s work to drag her and her family through the mud for months before they even made an attempt to talk to Emily. By then, the damage was done.

Fuck them. 

I logged on to GOMI yesterday because I wanted to give you all picture snapshots of the comments that were made but guess what! You can’t find a morsel of anything about The Freckled Fox on GOMI. They’ve erased it all. It’s gone. Again, too little too late in my opinion but what better testament to guilt.

To the cowards behind GOMI I say this: the people whose blogs you try to take down and trash, those people are actual human beings. They have lives, children, families and issues just like all of us. Their only difference? They put their lives out on display for everyone to see – the good, the bad and the ugly. Whether it be right or wrong, whether or not you agree with everything they say, they talk about the issues, struggles and challenges of everyday life and what’s going on in their world and to me in doing that, they will always be something you will never be…

BRAVE. COURAGEOUS.

It takes a big ol handful of cahones to make the conscience choice to put your life on display for the world to see; your mistakes, your wins, your short-comings and your failures. It takes courage to talk about personal struggles and when you’ve absolutely fucked up as an adult, a parent, someone trying to lose weight or the like. It takes strength to hit that publish button knowing that you’re opening the closet door to let all the skeletons come falling out. Unlike you, cowards, who sit behind a closed door behind the safety of your keyboard spreading your hate.

You’re hypocrites, every single one of you. I’m sure if I had the opportunity to see a sliver of your lives, I would find out just how fucked up you are and see your struggles. But the bigger question is, why do you even care so much? Is your life so incredibly boring and pathetic that this is all you have? Okay, so you don’t like a certain blog, then guess what – hit that little red “X” in the upper right hand corner and keep your shit moving.

Here’s a suggestion for all of you: stop hiding behind screen names like “Fuck Toad” and “Tits and Teeth” (yes, these are real) and come out into the light. Stop hiding and living a life through others. If you truly care about “authenticity in the blogging world,” try being authentic and OWN YOUR COMMENTS and put your name to it instead of hiding behind anonymous names. Instead of worrying about when someone is going to get a better boob job, lose more weight, wear a different color of makeup, come clean about their marriage, divorce, sickness or any other assorted type of fucked up conversations you like to have, focus on your own life. Get some goals, a job or hell, maybe even some friends? GET A LIFE THAT’S YOUR OWN because here’s the thing…

With a few simple clicks and little bit of time, I can easily find out who YOU are. All I need to do is click on your comments, get an IP address and voila. Privacy no more. But really, who has *that* kind of time to waste on such a pathetic group.


How’s THAT for authenticity in the blogging world and for keeping it real.
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup

Courtney is a published author, mom, taco enthusiast, and a Star Wars and Tennessee Volunteers fanatic. She's never met a piece of sushi she didn’t like and enjoys an amazing glass of wine and a great cut of meat. You can read more of her wine-induced, sleep-deprived adventures on The Huffington Post and Scary Mommy.

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