When I think back to the holidays growing up,
very few memories actually center around gifts. Sure, I remember getting some
pretty cool things along the way like my Commodore 64 computer {I’m really
showing my age here…} and a Nintendo play station but honestly what I remember
most about the holidays and my life as a child and teen revolve more around the
memories of traditions, family and faith. Now that I’m an adult, I can look
back and see that those “gifts” are the ones that really stuck with me and
helped to shape the adult I am today. To me, those “gifts” of traditions, family
and faith are invaluable.
Now that I have a child of my own, I’ve
started thinking about these things in how I raise our daughter and the impact
it will make on her life. Which got me thinking – what “gifts” can I give to
Chickie that she will never forget? What “gifts” can I give her that will impact
her life forever and help to guide and shape her into a responsible, kind,
strong and courageous girl and woman?
To that end, I’ve come up with a list of 10 “gifts”
that are most important to me that I plan on giving my daughter for the New
Year and moving forward in her rearing.
1.
Contentment.
The desire and urge for more and more is strong and such a slippery slope. One
of the best gifts we can give our children is the appreciation of being content
with what they have.
2.
Challenge.
It’s so important to me that Chickie knows it’s OK to dream big and set high
goals for herself. I want her to know that anything is possible if she’s
willing to work for it and work hard to overcome obstacles that may arise.
3.
Affirmation.
Sometimes one word can make a huge difference in the life of a person,
especially a child. One of the best gifts we can give our children are positive
affirmations of their place in our families and world. Tell them how much you
appreciate them and keep telling them.
4.
Determination.
One of the biggest determining factors in a child’s success is the size of
their will. How will I help to shape my child’s determination in the things she
learns and does, especially the challenging aspects of life?
5.
Imagination.
The world is changing at the speed of light every day and the ones who are
thriving in our ever-changing world have vast and incredible imaginations. I
always want Chickie’s spark of imagination to light her path.
6.
Optimism.
Pessimists do nothing but drain the life out of life. They do not change the
world. Optimists do.
7.
Unconditional
Acceptance and Support. We can raise our children with the ideals we
think are important but as they grow into adults and begin to have minds of
their own, they make their own choices on how to live their lives. I want Chickie
to know that I may not always agree with her choices but I will always, always,
always support her and love her unconditionally.
8.
A
Sense of Humor. Life can be hard. Knowing how to laugh, especially
at yourself, is important.
9.
Affection.
While we were at the park yesterday, I watched a young boy who looked to be
around 8 years old try to get hugs and kisses from his father. The father was
not much into being affectionate and at one point said, “You’re too old for
hugs and kisses. Now go play!” Hearing those words nearly broke my heart. As
humans, one of our greatest needs is affection from those we love. The human
touch is a powerful and healing tool. I never want Maddy to think she’s too old
to receive physical affirmations of love from me.
10. Room to Grow and Make Mistakes.
Kids are kids. They are messy. They are unorganized. They can even be nasty
little devils. IT’S OK. Give them permission to be little, to explore,
experiment and make mistakes.
None of these gifts are any that can be
bought, but really, that’s the point. What “gifts” would you like to give your
child to help them with their journey?
