18 January 2016

Four Things I Learned About Myself While Parenting Alone for a Week

For the past four years, Michael has been working on several different Masters Programs and in doing so, has to report to campus twice a year for residency leaving me to be the lone parent in our little zoo. Oddly enough, Starbucks stock always seems to do very well during these two weeks during the year. Coincidence? I think not. But I digress…

When you’re used to parenting as a duo and then your right hand man is no longer around, things tend to get a little…interesting. Case in point, last year, I had just dropped Michael off at the airport and thirty minutes later, I was sitting in an emergency room with Maddy wondering if she was going to be okay. Who would have thought? Out of the blue while cruising down I-85, Maddy started foaming at the mouth and grabbing at her throat while screaming the most excruciating, ear-piercing scream I’ve ever heard. Fortunately, I knew where the closest hospital was and my parents were close by to help and be with me, and everything turned out fine but it really got me thinking:

“How do single parents do it?”

I always find myself questioning my abilities when I know I’m going to be the lone parent in charge. I think this feeling is natural for all parents but it’s one I’m not comfortable courting and entertaining. While I won’t always have the answers to everything (thanks Google!), I like to feel that in some small way, I’ve found my groove where all this parenting stuff is concerned. Having said that, there are a few things I learned about myself this past week as the lone parent that have given me the confidence to know that I’ve got this.



1.    I can trust myself to handle anything and everything. Emergency room visit? Check. Five middle of the night wake up calls resulting in limited sleep for the night? Check. Master the art of multi-tasking? Done. Dog poops on the floor while the kid poops herself? Check and double check. I have taken care of it all, and then some.

When you’ve got two sets of hands, two sets of eyes and a two against one defense, life is good but take one of those players out of the game and things become a little more challenging. It’s all up to me to make sure the little gets fed, bathed and kept alive and I’ve come to learn that over time and with a little bit of trial and error, I can make it work. Parenting alone means never getting a timeout or a moment to yourself so you’re always “on” and relied upon to have the answers to anything and to do everything. I credit keeping a good routine and schedule coupled with a little TV/movie time (don’t judge). Some days, it’s simply about survival but at the end of the day, I can look back and know I did a good job and did it by myself.

2.   I know I am enough. When you’re parenting alone, it’s easy to doubt your ability to be just as good a parent alone as you are when you’re with your spouse but when it’s all said and done, you are enough to give your child everything he/she needs to thrive. It’s similar to when you lose one of your major senses – the others simply become highlighted. And while Michael is such an integral and important part of our family, I know that when it’s up to me to do it alone, I’ve got this. I am enough.



3.   Real single parents deserve mad props. Very simply, being responsible for a human-being all on your own, all the time is no joke, y’all. To any of you reading this who may be a single parent, please know you have my utmost respect and admiration. 


4.   Being a single parent has forced me to ask for help more. I am not great about asking for help. Truthfully, I’d rather scoop my eyes out with a spoon than admit I need help from anyone for anything BUT I’ve learned that being the lone parent humbles you in many, many ways and that you do what is necessary for the betterment of your child. It literally does “take a village” to raise kids and I’ve learned that it’s okay to know your limitations and to ask for help when it’s needed.

16 January 2016

Week in Review



Happy weekend, friends!

If you missed any posts from this week, well you’re in luck! I’ve collected them all right here for your reading pleasure. 


MONDAY


As a blogger, I’m pretty much up for trying anything to keep my little space interesting as long as it fits my niche and style. Catch words to pay attention to here - almost anything. While I consider myself to be open-minded and willing to experiment with new ideas, I’ve come across a few blogging trends, five to be exact, that in my opinion, need to die. Like, yesterday. READ MORE.


TUESDAY


Along this line, it takes a little effort to be creative in showing love and appreciation when you’re looking to spend next to nothing on gifts, trinkets, etc. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about genuine love so shouldn’t your emotions and efforts really show it? This Valentine’s Day, or any other day, really, remind your significant other, family member or friend how much you care about them by doing some of these thoughtful gestures. READ MORE


THURSDAY


I’ve been parenting alone since last Friday. Michael is getting his third Master’s degree online but twice a year, he has to report to campus for residency, but he will be home on Saturday. Parenting in and of itself is hard. Parenting with your spouse makes the load a little easier to bear but parenting alone? That’s a whole new ballgame. READ MORE.


FRIDAY


It’s one of the oldest crafts you’ll see floating around on Pinterest but honestly, it’s one of the easiest, budget-friendly ones I’ve come across and attempted. Seriously. A few dollars and a little time is all it takes and in the end, your loved one has something they can treasure and read for years to come. READ MORE.

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Cheers to the weekend!

15 January 2016

Made From Pinterest: 52 Things I Love About You Card Book

On Tuesday, I talked a little bit about five simple ways to show love and appreciation to those in our lives on Valentine’s Day. After all, the day is about more than flowers and chocolates so today, I thought I would share a very simple, inexpensive gift idea for that special someone in your life. The great thing about this craft is that your special someone could actually be anyone; a spouse, a friend or even your child. The flexibility this craft gives leaves lots of room for ideas and creativity.

It’s one of the oldest crafts you’ll see floating around on Pinterest but honestly, it’s one of the easiest, budget-friendly ones I’ve come across and attempted. Seriously. A few dollars and a little time is all it takes and in the end, your loved one has something they can treasure and read for years to come.

Made From Pinterest: 52 Things I Love About You Card Book. #ValentinesDay #Crafts #GiftIdeas


What You Need:
1 deck of playing cards ($1 from the Dollar Store)
2 binder rings ($1.50 at Walmart for a pack of four)
Hand held hole punch (already had on hand)
1 Elmer’s glue stick ($1 from the Dollar Store)
52 squares to write your notes on (free. I created these in under 10 minutes in Word)
Total spent: $3.50.



How You Make It:
1.       Create your 52 squares. As I mentioned above, you can either create a pattern in Word or you can simply cut 52 squares from the paper of your choice. It’s as easy as that. Once you have them created, write out a thoughtful statement for each one and then set them aside. Remember that you will have to punch holes into your cards so make sure to measure out your squares accordingly.
2.       Get your cards and your handheld punch. Take one card to use as a guide and punch two holes in the side of the card, one at the top and one at the bottom. Use this single guide card to place on top of the other cards to know where to punch your holes.
3.       Take your glue stick and place one square on each card.



4.       Allow the cards to dry. Once dry, use the binder rings to put the booklet together.
5.       Done! Wrap and give to your special someone.




This thoughtful gift is something your special someone will enjoy not only for Valentine’s Day but for years to come.


What kinds of Valentine’s Day crafts do you enjoy? 

14 January 2016

Three Thoughts on Thursday


I'm not sure what draws us to certain people in this life, especially celebrities. It seems odd and strange to feel a connection to someone you've never met; how you can be drawn in to a person's spirit and life yet never really know them. They inspire you, entertain you and share slivers of themselves to the outside world that in return, feed your own soul. For me, that person was Alan Rickman. If you know anything about me, it's that I've always loved Alan. Admittedly, I've always had a crush on him that even I can't explain and now, I'm left feeling so sad that he's left us too soon. Rest in peace Alan. When I'm 80 and still enjoying your movies, my friends and family will say to me, "After all this time?" And I will say, "Always."


At 3:00 this morning, Maddy came to our bed, woke me up and asked, “Momma, where did I come from?” I mean, WHOA. Well, whoa and WOW. The fact that Maddy was up at this hour pondering such a huge question blows my mind. I wasn’t exactly coherent enough to give her a decent response so I tried putting her back to bed…but she wasn’t having any of that. She desperately and genuinely wanted an answer to her question so I pulled her up in bed close to me and we snuggled for a little bit while I tried to give her an answer to her question. By the time it was all said and done, she was asleep and I was left wide awake to ponder how in the world a four year old can be so insightful. This little girl of mine never ceases to amaze me.

I’ve been parenting alone since last Friday. Michael is getting his third Master’s degree online but twice a year, he has to report to campus for residency, but he will be home on Saturday. Parenting in and of itself is hard. Parenting with your spouse makes the load a little easier to bear but parenting alone? That’s a whole new ballgame. I always get nervous when Michael leaves and without fail, I always begin to second guess myself; what if I can’t do it all? What if I drop the ball? What if, what if, what if. And then it hit me…

So what if I do. So what if I’m not able to be everything, do everything and know everything. So what if we eat out a few nights this week to make life a little easier for everyone? So what? Why am I being so hard on myself for a job that I do perfectly fine any other day of the week? Just because Michael isn’t here doesn’t mean that my ability to keep things rolling along stops. As our week together is coming to a close, I realize how much I’ve enjoyed having this one on one time with my daughter, even during the most aggravating episodes. I’ve also learned a few things about myself which I plan to share in a blog post next week so stay tuned!


How about you? What three things would you share today? 

12 January 2016

Five Simple Ways to Show Love & Appreciation

The season of manufactured, retail-induced love is upon us and while I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day, I do like to flip the switch on ol St. Valentine by using the “holiday” to tell the people I love most how much I appreciate them and love having them in my life instead of focusing on the material aspect of Valentine’s Day.

Along this line, it takes a little effort to be creative in showing love and appreciation when you’re looking to spend next to nothing on gifts, trinkets, etc. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about genuine love so shouldn’t your emotions and efforts really show it? For me personally, I will never find the value of love in a price tag. Materialistic things do not impress me. Some of the best gifts I’ve ever received have been handmade, free or thoughtful gestures.

This Valentine’s Day, or any other day, really, remind your significant other, family member or friend how much you care about them by doing some of these thoughtful gestures.

Five Simple Ways to Show Love & Appreciation. #ValentinesDay #Parenting #WorkingMom


Make their life easier. Have a friend who is a new mom? Cook dinner for her, help her with the laundry, babysit so she can get a shower or alone time or simply bring her a coffee and keep her company. Have a neighbor who is elderly? Bake cookies for them, shovel their driveway if it’s snowing or take them a meal. Have a spouse who’s stressed? Take on some of their responsibilities at home to lighten their load, cook their favorite meal or give them an evening of pampering.

Make a Valentine’s Day Advent for your spouse. Just as you would do for Christmas, make an advent calendar leading up to Valentine’s Day. If you want to buy a few little trinkets to go along with this then so be it but really, you could use this as an opportunity to write something you love or appreciate about your spouse for each day. Imagine how great you would feel if you had a compliment or sentiment of love to wake up to every morning?

Practice random acts of kindness. Spread the love not only to those you know, but to those you don’t know, too. Buy the person’s coffee behind you in the drive-thru, leave a letter or card of appreciation in your mailbox for the mail man/woman, make a small donation to the charity of your choice or volunteer your time to an organization that needs an extra set of hands. Put your love and appreciation into action!

Put away the electronics. For one day, give the special people in your lives your uninterrupted, undivided attention. The world won’t stop spinning if you fail to post to Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. Ban all phones, laptops and iPads and actually talk to one another. Tell the people in your life who mean the most to you how much you love and appreciate them because one day, they will be gone. Tell them now how much you love them!



Write it out. In this day and age of advanced technology, it’s so easy to dilute our emotions down to a short text or email. Take the time to write your spouse, family member or friend an actual letter, something they can keep with them always to look back on and read when they need a little encouragement or reminder of your love and appreciation. To me, there is nothing sexier than when a man puts pen to paper to tell his sweetheart how he feels. I think us humans long for this personal touch in our lives and technology has done all but remove it from every aspect of our daily lives. Write down how you feel about your loved one. They will treasure it. 

07 January 2016

Three Thoughts on Thursday

Three Thoughts on Thursday. #parenting #motherhood #kids #SAHM #workingmoms


If we were sitting down for a cup of coffee together this morning, this is what I’d share with you… 

As much as I love the holidays, I’m happy to be back into our normal routine. The holidays are great but they are also exhausting. On one hand, you have the excitement and fun of being with the littles and family during Christmas but then you have disorder; sleep schedules gone awry, routines interrupted and just an overall free for all. Needless to say, my OCD tendencies are a lot happier when there is order and routine in place.

This June I turn 40 {whatttttt} and to be honest, it really kind of snuck up on me. I mean, 40? Really? I distinctly remember turning 30 like it was yesterday. I had Maddy at 35 and now 40? Forty is a pretty defining age, in my opinion. That’s half of 80. EIGHTY. It feels like I’ve run through 40 years in the blink of an eye that I can’t imagine the next forty going by so fast, but it will and while it’s easy to wonder where all the time has gone, I choose to embrace it and keep moving. It’s better than the alternative, right? Yes, I’m one year closer to AARP knocking on my door but honestly, I don’t feel 40. In my mind, I feel young but maybe that’s because I still laugh at fart noises and love riding the kid coasters in amusement parks. Having a four year old also does wonders for keeping you young. Tired, but young. Maddy reminds me every day to kick back, remain silly and look at life like a child so let’s do this forty. I ain’t scared!

Maddy has recently been dealing with a mean girl at school {does this shit really start at the age of four?} and I really have to watch how I handle it and how I talk with her about how to deal with it. My forty year old, too-old-to-put-up-with-that-shit initial reaction is to tell Maddy to give this girl the finger and keep it moving but I know I can’t do that. I have to be the responsible parent and give her the tools she’ll need to deal with this kind of thing for life but it makes me sad that this even has to happen. Ladies, there’s plenty of room for all of us!


So that’s what’s on my mind at the moment. What would you share over a hot cup of joe? 

06 January 2016

Dealing With Unsolicited Parenting Advice

Dealing With Unsolicited Parenting Advice. #parenting #motherhood #parentingadvice


I remember the incident as if it were yesterday.

I just had my first baby. Madeline was only about a week old and it was my first attempt to go grocery shopping with baby sans Michael {which by the way, WTF was I thinking?} I had not slept in days. My hair was in dire need of an oil change and I'm pretty certain that I was wearing a pair of yoga pants with a hole in the thigh so big, that it would have rivaled the Grand Canyon.  I was a walking zombie; no make-up, no hair did, nada.

I could have cared less.

The fact that I was even out with a newborn and grocery shopping to boot was impressive in my book. Up to that point, Michael had pretty much been the errand boy and was doing his best to keep up with work and daddy duty. It was time for me to buck up, put on my big girl panties and brave the outings with my child.

So there we were in Kroger, just us girls. Things were going great for about the first thirty minutes and then it happened. I got the cranky baby hungry face. You know that face. That face don't play, but it's all good! Mommy is prepared! Mommy's got this! I reached into the diaper bag only to find that oops! No bottle! Which quickly led to a nuclear meltdown. 

While desperately looking for anything and everything to shove in her mouth, I notice an older lady standing to the left of me just looking at me. I happen to look her way for a hot second and wouldn't you know it, we made eye contact.

Never - EVER - make eye contact.



"Sweetie, you know, things with a baby go a lot more smoothly when you're prepared. You should always have a bottle with you!"

I honestly don't remember what my response was because I was so out of it and sleep deprived but I'm sure it was something along the lines of…


It seems like from the moment we find out that we're pregnant, the laundry list of unsolicited parenting advice begins:

"Don't take a bath! You'll drown the baby!"
 "Is that really the name you're picking? Why not X, Y, or Z?"
"Let me show you the right way to hold your baby."


Yes, I heard all of these and more so how do you deal with it?

Here's the bottom line for me: Unless my child is in imminent or immediate danger, keep your comments to yourself. I know that most people {and I'm probably being generous when I say this} have good intentions when they offer up their "advice" but here's the problem - they usually end up making the situation worse because they know nothing about what the mother or father are dealing with nor do they know the struggles of the child in question.

Rarely if ever is it helpful to give unsolicited advice regarding a situation that you know nothing about. Think about it. How much sense does that really make? Nowhere else in life would reasonable people do this. Would you really speak up out of the blue in a work meeting in front of a room full of people to comment on something you know absolutely nothing about? No, probably not. So why do we do it with complete strangers and about something so private and personal as our children?

For those who give unsolicited parenting advice, please know this: you have no idea that I've been trying for weeks to desperately breastfeed my child with no success and have tried everything possible to get my child to nurse so when you tell me that formula feeding is wrong, how do you think that makes me feel? You have no idea that my child may have a learning disability that makes it difficult for them to understand what I'm saying to them in order for them to be obedient. How do you think it makes me feel to get your "helpful advice" to just "Be a good parent, do your job, and get your kid under control." You don't know that I may be a mother suffering from severe PPD and your comments, albeit helpful in your mind, only comes across as judgmental with a voice of "Why aren't you capable?"  You see - not so helpful. You never know the battles each mom is facing. 

Silence is golden.

I have to admit that when it comes to my family, the rules are a little different and I do tend to cut a little bit of slack because that's just the reality. There's no way in hell I'm going to tell my grandmother to take a flying leap and get lost - obviously. A simple smile or nod goes a long way in cases like that. I've even offered up the generic, "That's something to think about, thanks!" and kept going on about my merry way. At the end of the day, family is family. These are the people in your life who will always be there for you and your family. They are not strangers and do deserve a certain level of respect where this topic is concerned. 

Strangers though? They are getting a world of snark coming their way. My theory? If you're ballsy, rude and presumptuous enough to say something to me, then you've earned what's coming. Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to tear you down. I'm not going to be mean. I'm just going to have a little fun at your expense and when it’s all said and done, you will know that you were put in your place.


Have you had a hard time dealing with receiving unsolicited parenting advice? How do you handle it? 

05 January 2016

10 Indoor Activities for Kids for Bad Weather Days

Let’s be honest right off the bat: who the hell really knows what to do with a toddler or preschooler all day indoors? Better yet, raise your hand if you’re one of the parents who feels like throwing yourself off a cliff when you wake up in the morning and see that you have ten feet of snow outside or that you’re stuck inside with a sick kiddo? If you guys are anything like us, a normal day at home includes being outside, whether that means we’re at the park, walking the neighborhood, playing in the yard or running errands, but what do you do when those options just aren’t possible whether it’s due to weather, sickness, etc?

Drink. #drinkallthewine

But seriously, is there anyone else out there that would rather have their eyeballs scooped out with a spoon than to be stuck inside all day with a very active child? It can really be challenging and to make our situation a little more difficult, my daughter really isn’t into crafting…like, not at all. She will putz around with crafting supplies for about a hot second and then she’s done so that one trick that most other moms have up their sleeves, my kid wants no part of. She would much rather be doing almost anything outside.

So what’s a momma to do? Well, I wish I had some brilliant answers for you but to be honest, I don’t. The things we do are probably no different or similar to what you do with your kids. I think the thing that helps the most to make a difference is the attitude we go with into our day. Sure, it’s a bummer that we aren’t able to go out but my philosophy has always been, “If we can’t get to the party, we’ll bring the party to us!” With that in mind, and with it being the time of the year where bad weather is imminent, I thought I would share some ideas on fun things to do with the kiddos inside to keep them happy and occupied.

10 Indoor Activities for Kids for Bad Weather Days. #parenting #indooractivities #kids #playtime


Lots of snuggle time. We’re able to slow things down a bit and reconnect. It’s a great feeling to snuggle up to your child and just “be” with them.

Baking and eating. Let me just say this: if we could win an Olympic medal in baking cookies and treats, we would win a gold medal.



Movies, movies, movies. An obvious choice but really, a necessity. I’m a firm believer that there’s nothing wrong with using the TV as a babysitter every now and then. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do!

Reading and quiet time.
 Maddy loves her book collection and I love that she enjoys reading so much. This goes back to snuggling as well. Get cozy with your kiddos on the sofa and enjoy a few books together. It’s great quality time and does seem to make the clock move faster.

Playing hide & go seek/running & chasing each other. Hide and seek is by far the funniest thing to play with Maddy. She doesn’t quite understand the concept completely so if you say, “Where’s Maddy hiding?” she’ll answer, “I’m right heeeeere!” It’s the funniest thing ever and I die each time she outs herself.

Play board games and do coloring books together. Maddy has just recently gotten into playing board games and it’s the perfect time to get some one on one interaction with her. She also enjoys coloring so we’ll spread out on the floor; she has her coloring book and I have mine and we’ll burn at least a good hour just by coloring and talking. It’s also a very soothing and therapeutic activity for both you and your child if you’re having “one of those days.” I highly recommend it!



Turn your hallway into a bowling alley! A while back, Maddy received a Monsters Inc. bowling set and we’ve used it many times to keep her occupied and happy. Don’t have one? If you recycle, you can take used soda bottles and set them up as pins. Find a ball and you’re good to go!

Building blocks. Chickie LOVES her blocks. I got a large bag of blocks from Target eons ago and I swear, there hasn’t been a day that’s gone by since that she hasn’t played with them. I love to watch her imagination come to life as she sits and figures out what she wants to build. Blocks can keep her busy till the end of time and I won’t lie, it’s a great break for me too as it allows me to have a little time to myself to either get a few things done around the house or do something I enjoy.

Sensory bowls & bins. When Maddy was a younger toddler, she loved playing in sensory bins with cups, spoons, measuring cups, etc. You don’t even really need to invest in buying a fancy sensory bin either. I always used Rubbermaid containers and bins and would go to the dollar store for boxes of rice, beans, felt and other different types of materials to throw in each bin. I always had those materials on hand so that I was able to make bins on the fly if I had to. Talk about being in heaven! She loved it and it kept her occupied and happy for hours.

Build a fort! Kids love forts. I mean, love them. Pop up a bowl of popcorn, throw some pillows and blankets in there and Boom! Instant awesome.

And for mom and dad, a few little treats along the way never hurt anyone to get through a day inside…



What ideas do you have to share on how you get your kids through the day when you’re stuck inside? I’m always looking for new ideas so please share!

04 January 2016

My Word for 2016: Selfish


I know what you’re probably thinking: “What an odd and questionable word to focus on for a year” but let me explain…

Yes, in most respects, the word “selfish” brings a multitude of negative connotations. As our parents raised us, we were taught to not be selfish with our toys and the things we have. We’re often scolded by most people in society for not doing enough for others, for only looking out for number one and how caring for the masses produces a better community for us all. Many times as working mothers, we’re looked down upon or considered “selfish” if we choose family and our children over our jobs. Indeed, selfish is a word that people love to hate.

But why? Have we ever considered how being a little bit selfish in our daily lives can actually be a good thing?

Last year was a whirlwind for me. We moved, Michael and I both started new jobs and Maddy transitioned into a new school. Amongst all of this change and adjustment, I was stretching myself thin with this blog, my employer, friends and other responsibilities. Trust me when I say that the last person I was focused on was me.

And I regret that.

In an attempt to keep everyone else happy, I forgot myself. I forgot my own joys and happiness, to take care of myself and my emotional and mental health. It’s easy to do as a mom; life gets crazy, the kids and husband are a priority and you’re stuck somewhere in the middle trying to make everyone happy…except yourself. Just because it happens easily doesn’t make it right so for 2016, I’m focusing on the positive side of selfish.

Selfish with my time. Time has to be one of the most precious commodities in our daily lives. Having said this, I no longer have time to put my energies towards people, situations and activities that aren’t worth my time. Every person and every activity that I devote myself and my time to that takes me away from either my family or other responsibilities, should be a mutually beneficial investment meaning, my time is spent in meaningful ways. Does this mean saying “No” more? Yep. Does this mean turning down offers for my blog if they don’t fit my niche but may get me a temporary boost in readership and exposure? Absolutely. My time is valuable. It has worth. This year I plan on utilizing it to my benefit instead of it being my detriment.

Selfish with my “me time” and self-care. I could go on and on about how I’m worth it blah, blah, blah but the truth is, when I’m not focused on taking care of me, everything else suffers and while yes, my family deserves me at my best, I deserve to feel my best. When we become mothers, we get sold a horrible bill of goods that we have to sacrifice everything, including ourselves and our own well-being, to be a “good mother” and what a load of shit that is. The one taking care of everyone should always take care of herself first. I have never been good at doing this but in 2016, I intend to learn how.

Selfish with my friendships. Friendships are a tricky thing and if we’re being honest, there’s no grey area. Friends can either uplift or be a blessing or they can drain you, leaving you for empty. I’ve made the mistake of investing in friendships that ended up being toxic for me but in 2016, it’s a new day. It’s time for me to start being selfish with whom I share myself and trust. There’s certainly nothing wrong with looking out for yourself in this regard.

Selfish with my employer. As a working mom, I’m always teetering the line of keeping my employer happy while trying to find balance at home and in life and honestly, there have been more times than I’d like to admit where my employer won the balancing act. Working late, bringing work home and merely giving time to talking about work at home and outside of the office has to stop. The hard reality is that no one is paying me extra to work at home in the evenings. There is nothing so important that I do in a day at the office that should have precedence in my life once I leave for the day. I need to be selfish enough for me and my family to say that work has me from 8 – 3:30 but that’s it. When I walk out the door, it all gets left behind.

In a lot of ways, I’m an advocate for being selfish but these are the top four things I plan to focus on this year to improve my life and well-being moving forward. While being selfish does have a negative side, I’d argue that being selfish in all the right ways can mean everything to our peace of mind and betterment of life.


In what ways could you be a little more selfish to improve or enhance your life?

01 January 2016

Welcome 2016!


HAPPY NEW YEARS, FRIENDS!


Wishing each and every one of you a very blessed, peaceful and joyous 2016. Let’s make it spectacular!