27 May 2015

5 Ways Being a Working Mom Sucks



5 Ways Being a Working Mom Sucks


As I’ve mentioned many times before, I enjoy being a working mom. Even before I had my daughter, I took an enormous amount of joy in working. There’s a lot to be said in achieving and accomplishing goals that are all mine and mine alone. There is a lot of self-fulfillment for me in working. That said, there are the not so great parts of being a working gal now that I’m a mom.

{ONE}
Sick/Vacation/Holiday Days // Before Chickie, those days were all mine to do with as I pleased. If I wanted to take a personal day to stay home and be a vegetable it was fine. Now? No way. That time all goes to Chickie as back-up. I live in constant fear of having enough sick/vacation/holiday time to use in case Chickie gets sick because let’s face it – toddlers and preschoolers are little carrier monkeys and it will eventually happen that a dreaded sickness will hit. The good thing is that both Michael and I work for the University so we accrue time the same way so there isn’t that inconsistency and both of our bosses are very understanding but, still. The cold reality is that employers nowadays are only sympathetic to a point. Having time available to use is critical in staying out of hot water.

{TWO}
Scheduling Appointments // When your doctor’s office is only open the standard M-F, 8-5 it makes it difficult to squeeze in appointments for myself or Chickie with only an hour lunch. SOOO…therein lies having enough time built up to use because an hour usually isn’t enough time to do it all. It usually takes an hour just to get to my car, pick up Chickie, get there, and wait to be seen let alone go through the actual appointment. 

And don’t even think for a moment that you’re actually eating lunch that day. That's comical.

{THREE}
Day Care // Ay yi yi…where to even start with this one. It’s a whole mixed bag of things: the mommy guilt that someone else is “raising” your child, the fact that no one will ever do a good enough job as you will in taking care of your child and disciplining them the way you want or would, and how on top of it all, it costs a bloody fortune. Day care, while an important necessity, just sucks. Plain and simple.

{FOUR}
Time // There never seems to be enough of it! Both Michael and I get off work at 5 so it’s a mad dash to get Chickie from school, get home to get dinner done, and then have time together before bath and bed at 7:30. You do the math…that’s only a couple of hours of good quality time every night with Chickie. I think we do the best we can but most days, it feels so inadequate and let's not even mention the nights that Chickie gets picked up from school and is in a horrible mood. The witching hour...it just makes everything more difficult and leaves us frustrated. 

5 Ways Being a Working Mom Sucks


{FIVE}
Weekends are a HUGE Energy Drain // Neither Michael nor I are used to running after Chickie all day like she does during the week. Y’all, it’s downright exhausting! It’s also the Catch22 – it’s great to have time with her but by the end of the day, we are wiped out and honestly, the both of us are usually napping during her nap time!

Having said all of this, I wouldn’t trade my decision to work for anything. I know that I’m definitely not stay at home mom material and that I’m a better mom for Chickie when I’m doing things I enjoy and pursuing my own goals/wants/wishes. I just wish there was a better balance to it all. 

What have you found to be your biggest challenges as a working mom?
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup

Courtney is a published author, mom, taco enthusiast, and a Star Wars and Tennessee Volunteers fanatic. She's never met a piece of sushi she didn’t like and enjoys an amazing glass of wine and a great cut of meat. You can read more of her wine-induced, sleep-deprived adventures on The Huffington Post and Scary Mommy.

14 comments:

  1. Oh girl, you said it all. Did you read my mind this morning???

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  2. Jessie D'Amato FordMay 27, 2015 at 9:47 AM

    totally agree - my biggest issue is keeping up with all our household stuff and having time to play. it's hard to let my house stay destroyed at the same time missing out on play time.

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  3. totally agree...with our commute, pickups and stuff, we have like an hour when we get home to have supper, baths, homework and bed...i am in bed at like 8 pm most nights

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  4. The biggest challenge when I was a working mom was time. There is never enough time!

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  5. I'm a stay at home mom so I don't have any working mom challenges. But I think either way, being a parent is just plain exhausting!! Once the kids are in school though, I'll be a working mom.

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  6. As a fellow working mom I agree with all of this! It is so hard to juggle it all..

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  7. I'm with you. It is definitely a balancing act that I am still figuring out. Wish I could work a little less, but I haven't quite found one of those jobs yet!

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  8. I'm working from home right now as a freelance writer so I don't deal with most of these struggles. I'm planning to go back to teaching in a few years and I think one of the hardest things for me will be the mornings and getting everyone where they need to be.

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  9. Twitchetts BlogspotMay 27, 2015 at 8:05 PM

    My sister works full time and I stay home. We all have our ups and downs in motherhood. As long as your kiddos are loved you will make it through. The lack of time/sleep will all be a blur one day.

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  10. Ooooy I can definitely relate. I have been lucky enough to have a very flexible schedule with technically less than 40 hours and a weekday off! It has been a saving grace, even though it is a small difference.

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  11. I can relate to all of these. I do miss those vacation days where i could just drink coffee and catch of of useless reality TV. I actually just transferred positions so I can be more flexible with my hours. I'm thinking it will be a lifesaver when scheduling appointments or at least I hope so.

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  12. I take it one day at a time. Yes I spend a good portion of my retirement in childcare but it's a worthwhile balancing act. I worship the stay at home moms that help me out and I extend help to them in anyway I can. I feel very fortunate to have a fullfilling job and good shift but nothing is perfect.
    Hang in there, if gets easier when they get older! My daughter is 7 and we travel together now :)
    As for the spousal relationship ? Communication is key :) (and quickies)

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