05 February 2015

The Only Message My Daughter Needs to Hear in Our Challenging World




There are many messages our daughters hear in the world today. They come in all different shapes and sizes and from all different kinds of mouthpieces. Some will say to just "lean in" a little more to your life - give more, do more, be more. Others will say that a woman's place is in the home and nowhere else. Some will say that for a woman to have worth, she must earn it in the working world. 

Be fat! Be skinny! Be curvy! Be organic! Be a lady! Be funny! Be outgoing! Be smart! Have kids! Don't have kids! Get married! Don't get married! Go to college! Don't go to college! Be this, do that! Everyone else knows better than you. The list goes on and on and on and on. It's overwhelming, demanding and in no way, fosters independent growth and thinking. Actually, I find it downright depressing and upsetting at times. 


I've been giving a lot of thought lately to the messages my daughter hears on a daily basis and the ones that she will hear as she grows up and the more I think about all those messages being pumped out to our girls as if being manufactured on an assembly line, it brings me sheer distress. I remember growing up, I heard these same messages and more and I remember how confusing it can all be while trying to grow-up and figure out who you are in this world, especially as a girl. My parents did an amazing job with the messages they told us girls within the walls of our home but once we stepped outside into the big bad world, those same messages that fostered courage, independence, and strength in me and my sisters seemed to fall away easily to the influence of peer pressures and more. 



I can think back to my own experiences as a young woman but at the end of the day, the world will be a totally and completely different place for my daughter growing up than it ever was for me. Chickie will have so many more challenging issues to face than you, I, or our parents ever did. 

Having said all of this, out of all the messages my daughter will hear in her lifetime, if she were to ever hear just one and hold onto it with all her might, it would be this:


“You are your own divine person.  God made you in His image so you are beautiful in every way.  Love and forgive those who taunt and make fun of you – they need it the most.  Weak people lash out at those who are strong and able.  You have been given much so much will be expected.  Live not to please others, but live to make a difference in the world; every day you live you will be leaving your mark on the world and the people you come in contact with – make your impression positive and make it count.  Through the gifts and talents you have been blessed with use them to be an inspiration and a tool for teaching others.  If I could protect you from every bad thing in the world I would gladly take on all the pain and sadness you will one day be forced to endure…unfortunately most of it will come from the hands of others but know this – No one else’s feelings or words can have power over you and at the end of the day, it’s not eternal to your destiny.”



What messages do you try to instill in your child to help them tackle the world?


Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup
Courtney @ Shiraz In My Sippy Cup

Courtney is a published author, mom, taco enthusiast, and a Star Wars and Tennessee Volunteers fanatic. She's never met a piece of sushi she didn’t like and enjoys an amazing glass of wine and a great cut of meat. You can read more of her wine-induced, sleep-deprived adventures on The Huffington Post and Scary Mommy.

19 comments:

  1. Such beautiful sentiment. I just loved reading it

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  2. I love this!! And your daughter is beautiful :)

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  3. Sniff. Sniff. I have something in my eye. ;) Truly, this is wonderful. I think the message I want to instill in my (future) children most is to think independently, to consider all messages that come their way, but to only accept and follow the ones that they find to be true and worthy, even if I don't agree.

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  4. Wonderful. I want my daughter to grow up knowing she is strong, brave, and connected to others in the world. I want her to see the world as a big community that she is a part of, feeling empowered to make connections and pursue her dreams.

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  5. This. Is. Beautiful. I have no other words :)

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  6. You summed it in up in that last paragraph. Really what else could we tell them? Absolutely perfect and beautiful! Love it!

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  7. In a world full of hate, ugliness and harsh words, it makes me proud to have you as a friend, knowing you are shaping Chickie to be someone with purpose, pride and kindness.

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  8. beautiful message friend! You're on a roll lately with the deep thought posts! :)

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  9. Thanks, Jenny! I'm trying to up my blog game a little this year. Thanks for noticing! XOXO

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  10. Thank you, dear one. That's probably the best thing I've heard all week. Love you!!

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  11. Thank you, Becky!

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  12. Thanks, Sandra. I appreciate you reading!

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  13. Thanks, Tawnya! I appreciate you taking the time to read my blog. :)

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  14. That is a beautiful sentiment, Lily. Thanks for reading!

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  15. Thanks, Amberly! I appreciate you taking time to read my blog.

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  16. Amen to that!! Thanks so much, Miranda. Hope you're having a beautiful week.

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  17. Thanks so much!!

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  18. Thanks, Rebecca! I appreciate you reading my blog.

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